Long Day's Journey Into Night

Have you ever had a whole day pretty much planned out, but as the day progressed your plans went straight out that proverbial window? Today was one of those days. My boyfriend Msh and I woke up this morning with plans to go to the Farmer's Market in downtown New Orleans. He was determined to buy eggplants at a reasonable price instead of the $3/eggplant you get at Super Wal-Mart or our local Winn-Dixie. He was awake at 6:30 this morning. He was a man with a plan apparently. I was not. I stayed in bed till about 8:30 or so.

We ended up not leaving the house till 11 this morning. We went to the bank and then out to the Farmer's Market in the Warehouse/Art district. When we got there, the market was not actually there. The parking lot where they usually have it in was full of cars. Bitches! We then prepared for plan B which was to visit our friend Lindy, whom I've mentioned before in my Panic Room entry. He was doing laundry at Flebbies' house. I can't get into all that because it would take up a lot of space on my blog and I don't want to do that.

So we meet up with Lindy at Flebbie's new pad, and I'm mildy suprised that she has managed to keep it somewhat neat. Bets are still out on how long that will last, but I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

From there, we walked a few blocks to Port of Call, which is a local restaurant that serves the best burgers in the city. If you are ever in New Orleans, go there for a REALLY good burger. While sitting at our table, we saw our friend Vinny riding by on his bike. We called him up and he joined us for lunch. Afterwards, we dropped by Steve-o's place and talked for a short while. Steve-o eventually kicked us out because he had to go with his daughters to visit his mom.

From Steve-o's we went to Napoleon's Itch, a gay bar that is not frequented very often. I think it has great potential to be a sit-down bar to go to after a night of drinking and just chill. It could even be cool if was a starting point before going out, but it's awkwardly structured.

Eventually, Flebbie joined us after work, but by that time Lindy was bordering on being obnoxiously drunk. Maybe it wasn't even that. Maybe it was that Flebbie was joining us and they do not bring the best out in each other. I tend to believe the latter.

Msh and I ended up taking Vinny home because we couldn't fit his bike in the trunk of my car. While in the car, and this is really the point of me writing this whole long story, we started discussing Vinny's current status with his boyfriend. He told us he hasn't had sex with him since they began seeing each other two months ago. I don't believe there's anything wrong with that. However, I do believe that there's something not right when Vinny has tried to initiate sex and his bf has rebuffed him for doing so.

There's a whole story to Vinny's bf. It seems that he previously dated someone who was not employed, as Vinny is now, and he basically sponged off of him. So, he made this deal with himself that he would hold off on sex until he made sure things were not going down that treacherous heartbreaking and expensive road. I can't blame the guy. Shit though....two fucking months?! I know Vinny's balls are blue. He'll even admit to it.

Before getting out of my car tonight Vinny was saying that he was not going to talk to his bf about this whole no-sex issue. Actually, it's not so much that he doesn't want to talk to him, because he does, it's just that he's not wanting to talk to him about it and then have pangs of guilt coming from his bf afterwards. I want to give bf more credit than he's being given. I believe he's intelligent and reasonable enough to know how to take in all this information.

I believe, and Vinny knows it too, that he's afraid of looking foolish. Well, who the hell wants to look foolish? I wouldn't want to either. My problem with this whole not talking is two-fold. I believe that the bf does deserve to know what is on Vinny's mind before Vinny takes matters into his own hands (i.e. seeing other people). I also believe that in order for Vinny to grow as an individual he needs to realize that being one half of a couple means being able to talk to one another about what's bugging you.

I understand what Vinny is feeling. Not only is he feeling frustrated sexually, he's also feeling frustrated not knowing what is expected of him from his bf. In the end, Vinny is a grown man and he'll do what he pleases. I'll respect whatever decision he makes. I just hope he does what's best for him and not worry about guilt or embarassment. This guy really likes Vinny. He calls him all the time every single day. Vinny says they haven't said anything about exclusivity, but if you call someone several times during the day every day like bf does, then chances are you are not seeing anyone else.

My rule has always been this...if someone thinks you are worth the time, then they will make the time to call and see you. If that sentiment was not in bf's mind, then why the fuck would he be calling Vinny all the time? Hence, it wouldn't be fair to bf for Vinny to not say anything and then start seeing other guys no matter how "understood" that rule is in this situation. There's never a good time to talk to anyone about what's bothering you, but if he cares enough about bf, then he'll have the courtesy to talk to him about not getting the "sex." Am I making sense or have I been repeating myself? I tend to do that. I hope I made sense.

UPDATE
They broke up. Not my fault. I promise. Vinny did try talking to him, but bf was ready to talk too. He actually told Vinny,"It's not you, it's me." Sad little man!

I'm proud of Vinny because he tried talking. YAY, Vinny!!!

Now, Voyager

My friends were mildy surprised the other day when it was mentioned to them that I watched Battlestar Galactica. It is an awesome show and there is no denying it. I really threw them for a loop when I mentioned that I also liked the Star Trek Series, Voyager and Enterprise.

I only recently began watching Voyager because my friend, Silly-Monkey, lent me his Season 1 DVDs. I was never a fan of The Next Generation, Deep Space 9, or the Original Star Trek. Voyager tackles a different array of contemporary subject matter and makes it relevant to their time period. Naturally, it's told in a sci-fi way, but it still resonates.

Enterprise, which was cancelled after only four seasons, was a different show. It tried tackling some of those issues that the other series did, but they also tried to be different. They had someone singing the theme song as opposed to being an instrumental cut. They also tried taking various story lines beyond one episode.

One particular storyline involved the hostile aliens, the Xindi. This storyline involved the Xindi creating this weapon of mass destruction that would completely anhilate all of Earth. The story line went on for all of Season 3, and it kept me on the edge of my seat. Then season 4 began and the series went back to the tried and true format that all the other series had done before. It wasn't enough to save the show. People stopped watching. I didn't. Bitches!

All the studios distributing these shows have to do now is lower the prices on their DVDs, but they know the fans out there really want them. Naturally, they sell them for $100 a pop! Can you believe? I'm apalled!

Alice Doesn't Live Here Anymore...except unless she's on meds

Leisha Hailey, Alice Pieszecki, on the the Showtime drama, The L Word, is one of the most natural actresses on TV these days.












Leisha, out actress and ex-gf of kd lang, plays Alice as a vulnerable and funny character. Alice is going through a bad break-up with her ex-gf Dana. Well, it's only bad because Alice still hasn't gotten over Dana. So now, Alice has become this crazy obsessed woman who stalks Dana and her new girlfriend, Lara. I suppose it wouldn't be so funny except that, even if you can't or won't admit it, we've all gone through these feelings at one point in our lives. Alice keeps a shrine to Dana in her home. I would say tens of pictures and one life-sized cardboard cutout of her. I've gone as far as stalking someone to see if they were home and to, you know, see if they were home and all. However, going on many psychotropic drugs to aleviate your sorrow is probably not the best way to recovery.

I have a friend, whom we'll call "O" who once told me she'd gone as far as walking up to the guy's parked car and feeling whether or not the hood of his car felt warm. This way she would be able to tell if he'd gone out. Mind you, as she told me this we were having a casual lunch at a local eatery, and I was looking at her in utter disbelief. On the inside, however, I was thinking,"Damnit! Why didn't I think to do that?" I mean isn't that great? I was just sorry I hadn't thought of it myself. We all have our little addictions, don't we? (January 4th, 2006 entry)

I can understand Alice's sadness and obsession. I blame it on the person's inability to communicate clearly why they are breaking up with the breakee.

Just the other day at work, one of my co-workers came back from a long weekend with friends and the unexpected happened. Her boyfriend of 5 years broke up with her. She, on the one hand, thought that he was getting ready to propose, but it didn't turn out that way. Instead, he broke it off. How sad! How sad to not see it coming, but you bet he knew it was in the works for some time. They always know. The little bastards!

I'm sure the character of Alice will recover. I'm also sure my friend will recover too. It just takes time and an understanding group of friends who will allow you to repeatedly talk about the whole fiasco until you are blue in the face .

In the meantime, catch the L Word. You won't regret doing so!

Cold Comfort Apartment

Ugh! I really dislike it when the weather/temperature fluctuates from COLD to WARM to COLD as it does where I live. Inevitably, my allergies appear and then my stuffiness becomes a cold or a sinus infection.
It all started last Saturday and continued through Wednesday when the weather turned cold again. Then Thursday and Friday the muggies returned and I was stuffy again. I just want to be in bed sleeping. I also want some seafood gumbo or french onion soup. Hell, won-ton soup would be perfect too. I can't wait to see the doctor on Monday. For now though I'll have to settle on watching TV and sleeping whenever I get a chance to do so.

Tonight I'll be going to my friend, Silly-Monkey's house to play a home version of "Street Smarts." It should be interesting.

Bringing Down the House

If you haven't seen "The Best Week Ever," then you are missing out on a weekly chuckle. Trust me. Watch.

My favorite panelists are Frances Callier and Angela Shelton. They crack me up! They call themselves Frangela and I linked their website to their name. Bad website, but funny ladies.